Monday, September 21, 2009

To Spank or Not to Spank


ATTENTION: This blog is not encouraged nor endorsed by any members of the Stegman family.It is strictly the opinion of the writer.


I am a supporter of spanking an unruly child. Let me point out the steps I take prior to the act. They are:
1. tell the child what they are doing wrong and ask them to stop.
2.tell the child the consequences that will happen if the behavior continues.
3.pull the child aside in private. No public humiliation. Explain to child why you are inforcing this discipline, tell them you love them, bend them over, and in a controlled manner let them have it. Tell them you love them and leave them alone to process.
4.Never strike in face, limbs. Buttocks is the target. To assure extra protection cover your kids back with you other arm to protect the kids kidneys.If the child jerks you will hit your arm instead of their back.
5.Make this a team effort with you spouse. If kids see disagreement on the punishment it will confuse the issue.
6.Always point out how you dislike and upset that the punishment is carried out.
7.After the spanking occurs, the punishment is over. Go back to normal activities.
8.You only dicipline your own child in this way! If you're having problems with another persons child return the child to the parents and express your concerns. Walk away. Your job is done .It is the Parents responsibility to discipline.Never forget this!

Why am I blogging about this? I saw some guy on tv telling how he never ever spanked his kids and thought it was a phase all kids go thru. Bullying, striking others, other acting out things that kids do are not phases. They are the beginning of bad habits that can lead to tragic results. Now this father is visiting his adult child in prison.

Nobody's perfect. These are just my thoughts. I cant believe I'm pushing the publish post button after commenting on this subject. This is my opinion and I'm sticking to it.

Blessings
Steg

Thursday, September 17, 2009

Old News/Budget Cuts/Me


I don't know about you, but I'm sick and tired of hearing about budget cuts. After all, budget cuts are what cost me my job. All areas have been hit by these cuts and that helps take the sting out of my unemployment. It reinforces the fact that "Its not about me."
This concept is what I have struggled with for most of my life. I think I can honestly say I'm living evryday now constantly thinking what I can do for others. I need to volunteer more and make sure I don't fall back in my old ways. These past 6 months have really helped me grow.
Like I always say 'Quit Whining". I think I blogged about this some time ago. Have a good day and focus on doing something for someone else today.

Blessings
Steg

Monday, September 14, 2009

Jason Whitlock "Serena's a Whiner, Jordan's a Winner

I copied this article from Jason Whitlock. He made some interesting points.

So Serena thinks we saw her passion for tennis Saturday night.

I saw cowardice.


I saw the character flaw that prevents Serena Williams from taking her rightful place alongside Michael Jordan as one of the greatest champions of all time.

In an absolutely crazy, busy and fabulous sports weekend, two moments stood out: 1. Serena Williams' match-point meltdown in her U.S. Open semifinals clash with Kim Clijsters; 2. Michael Jordan's raw, in-your-face, take-no-prisoners Hall of Fame induction speech.

Serena and Jordan are both being crucified for their alleged classless behavior. Only one deserves it, the one who issued the gutless apology on Sunday.

"(Saturday) night everyone could truly see the passion I have for my job," Williams said in a press release. "Now that I have had time to gain my composure, I can see that while I don't agree with the unfair line call, in the heat of battle I let my passion and emotion get the better of me and as a result handled the situation poorly. I would like to thank my fans and supporters for understanding that I am human and I look forward to continuing the journey, both professionally and personally, with you all as I move forward and grow from this experience."



But we've grown used to Serena belittling her competition.

Serena has been so emotionally coddled and crippled by her enablers, including irresponsible and irrational television commentator John McEnroe, that she mistakes embarrassing displays of poor sportsmanship as passion and competitive fire.

Someone get her a copy of Jordan's Hall of Fame speech.

Jordan's rambling and possibly cocktail-inspired acceptance rant has been misinterpreted by the media. We didn't like it. It wasn't gracious or spiced with false humility. Jordan declined the high road and traveled the bone honest one.

In graphic detail, he explained the slights — real, exaggerated and imagined — that fueled his competitive fire. He gave us a peek behind the curtain, a look at what drove the greatest competitor in our lifetime. I overlooked his missteps. He's a basketball player, not a motivational speaker. He spoke without a map. His words were not measured or chosen to create the impression he was anything beyond a competitive son of a bitch.

Serena and many of her groupies see the foot-fault call that put Clijsters at match point as a continuation of the inherent racial bias that has plagued Serena's entire tennis career. And perhaps it is. Life is inherently unfair, and a country-club sport like tennis is more racially unfair than most.

How does a top competitor with limitless talent respond to unfairness?


Serena's big meltdown Photos: It was a wild night at the U.S. Open. Check out these shots of Serena Williams' loud exit at Arthur Ashe Stadium.
Jordan chose to destroy his challengers and shame the people who propped them up with never-before-seen on-court excellence.

No doubt, racial bias played a role in Buzz Peterson being named North Carolina's high school player of the year over Jordan in 1981. Friday night, Jordan talked about how he roomed with Peterson at UNC and set out to prove Peterson's inferiority. Jordan said he didn't care about the infamous NBA All Star freeze-out allegedly orchestrated by Isiah Thomas and other black players. Jordan said the rumor only made him work harder to prove to his peers that he deserved the attention and acclaim he received at an early age.

Jordan took shots at the high school coach who didn't let him play varsity as a sophomore, Jerry Krause for valuing the franchise more than the players who powered the Bulls, Dean Smith for leaving him off a Sports Illustrated cover and Bryon Russell for daring to say he could defend Air Jordan.






Jordan wasn't a whiner. He was a competitor. He was old school, a reminder of the values that created the social progress and freedom too many black athletes now take for granted.

Kicking ass and taking names earns far more respect than take-my-ball-and-racket-go-home tantrums. No one respects a crybaby, especially one with more ability than everyone else.

Clijsters put a clown suit on Serena. Two-and-a-half years after retiring to have a baby and in her first major since her return, she wiped the court with the self-described No. 1 player. Rather than take her beating like a a grown-ass woman, Serena first smashed her racket and then sacrificed match point with a ridiculous tirade directed at the line judge.

Everybody knows damn well Serena has no business losing a major to a baby's mama. And everyone knows damn well if Serena dropped 20 pounds and focused on her game, she'd be untouchable.

But rather than focus on her unrealized potential, McEnroe and Serena's other groupies want to pretend that calling a foot fault late in a match that Serena was clearly losing was some sort of hate crime worthy of Serena making a fool of herself.

The foot fault didn't cost Serena the U.S. Open. Just like nearly every other loss in her career, Serena's unwillingness to compete at her highest level led to the defeat.


Get on with your life. Use the tools that God provided you with and become a winner not a whiner.

Blessings
Steg

Thursday, August 27, 2009

Texting


Texting does have its time and place, but so many hazards accompany a texter. Texting while operating cars, motorcycles, and lawn mowers is absolutely stupid. Not only are you putting yourself in danger, but those around you usually suffer. Texting in school or at work is wrong also. Todays younger people have ruined texting. It seems to now be a way of life. This idiot in the video should be banned from driving for life. If we chopped off his fingers he'd probably resort to using his nose or ----. Stay safe out there

Blessings
Steg

Monday, August 17, 2009

The Story Behind the Song "How He Loves Us"



My kids just told me the story behind the song How he loves us.It has preoccupied me for days now and thought I would publish it so I could refer to it time and again. That's all I need to say about this post other than this other video of Kim Walker is my favorite version to date and I'm wearing out my ipod playing it.
Bottom Line: Oh How He Loves Us.



Enjoy
Blessings
Steg

Tuesday, August 11, 2009

Not Yogi the Bear--- Yogi the Yankee


This old fart(Yogi Berra) was a catcher for the New York Yankees for many years . The press loved him. He was always good for a quote.He just said exactly what he meant. He didn't sugar cote anything.
Some of my favorite Yogiisms are:
A nickel ain't worth a dime anymore.


All pitchers are liars or crybabies.


Always go to other people's funerals, otherwise they won't come to yours.

Baseball is ninety percent mental and the other half is physical.


Congratulations. I knew the record would stand until it was broken.


Even Napoleon had his Watergate.


Half the lies they tell about me aren't true.


He hits from both sides of the plate. He's amphibious.

How can you think and hit at the same time?


I always thought that record would stand until it was broken.


I just want to thank everyone who made this day necessary.


I never blame myself when I'm not hitting. I just blame the bat and if it keeps up, I change bats. After all, if I know it isn't my fault that I'm not hitting, how can I get mad at myself?


I never said most of the things I said.


I think Little League is wonderful. It keeps the kids out of the house.


I wish I had an answer to that because I'm tired of answering that question.


I'm a lucky guy and I'm happy to be with the Yankees. And I want to thank everyone for making this night necessary.

I'm not going to buy my kids an encyclopedia. Let them walk to school like I did.


If people don't want to come out to the ball park, nobody's gonna stop 'em.


If the world was perfect, it wouldn't be.


If you ask me anything I don't know, I'm not going to answer.




If you don't know where you are going, you might wind up someplace else.

In baseball, you don't know nothing.


In theory there is no difference between theory and practice. In practice there is.

It ain't over till it's over
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the heat, it's the humility.


It gets late early out there.


It was impossible to get a conversation going, everybody was talking too much.


It's like deja-vu, all over again.


It's pretty far, but it doesn't seem like it.


Little League baseball is a very good thing because it keeps the parents off the streets.


Nobody goes there anymore. It's too crowded.


Slump? I ain't in no slump... I just ain't hitting.

I hope you all have a wonderful day and remember what Yogi said. "If you come to a fork in the road, take it."

Blessings
Steg

Wednesday, August 5, 2009

80


This past week my father reached the 80 years old milestone. He took me to my first baseball practice. He converted to catholicism so he could help coach my football team.He went to all my basketball practices and never missed a track meet. I realize how lucky I am to have a father able to make it to all my sporting events, banquets,graduations and vacations.
We would take the motorcycles to Florida and cruise Daytona. We went to car races both nascar and indy. We went to time trials and at one time he owned a small share of an indy car.
After I grew up, he went to all 3 kids games and graduations. There is much to be learned from a man of 80 years.There are times in my life(at 53) that I don't have a clue. Hopefully I am growing wiser as I age. So if you see the old man around tell him "Happy 80". He's a good one.

Blessings
Steg